The Hidden Self

I have a friend that says everyone has a hidden self. He believes that it's not so much that people change but that their hidden self emerges. He believes that some people fight the emergence of their hidden self their whole lives, others let theirs out in small doses, while others suddenly let theirs emerge. He also believes that if you look hard enough you can see the signs of others hidden selves, in the small things, words they choose, a flash of emotion across their face, body language and the way they talk about themselves. I'm unsure if he means this as a good versus evil conflict. This man has a voice that could calm the raging sea, he leaves me long messages on my answering machine while I'm at work. I save these messages and on nights that I am feeling afraid and vulnerable I listen to him tell me that I am good and strong and that he loves me. He tells me that good thing are waiting for those that are good. I know what he means but there are days when I want those good things to be the winning power ball numbers because I am just so tired, physically, emotionally and financially spent. There was a time that I let our friendship go, because of my situation, because it was easier than fighting over it, because I was more loyal to a false idol than to a faithful friend. Then at one of the lowest points in my life this man came to me, he walked into my house and he wrapped his arms around me in a hug that I can still feel. He said " you should have called me ", I told him I couldn't it had been so long and he said none of that matters because you are my friend and I love you. He doesn't think he makes a difference in this world, sometimes he even half jokingly calls himself a loser. For such a smart, intuitive guy on that issue he is so dumb and good things are waiting for him. Thanks K.M. I will never again let our friendship go:) So do each of us have a hidden self? If I do does she have the winning power ball numbers because funds are getting low:)